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My children were in charge for the day, and this is what happened...

This week George and Molly had a full day of being 'in charge' which consisted of them having a day each where they could choose everything we do, from food to activities. Even though we have a very child-led lifestyle, I was a bit apprehensive about a few things. I thought we'd end up eating sweets for breakfast and playing video games all day long.

Well it turns out, I was wrong. Here's what happened…

From play-dough to dog walks, movies to jigsaws, we did a lot in the two days George and Molly were in charge. I learnt a lot along the way, and by observing the days, I realised just how special it was to give them the power of organising and leading activities and decision making, compromise and trying to fit everything in. This is what I learnt about my children...

1. My children are thoughtful.
Both George and Molly had a day each, and on both days I noticed they considered each other at certain points during both days. George didn't force certain things on people, for example, his breakfast choice for everyone was, 'Whatever you want!' and he chose specific lunches for everyone, which made me realise he was choosing food based on everyone's individual preferences- how amazing is he?!

2. My children are happy.
They were both in their elements when they were doing the things they wanted as well as the things they didn't want to do!

3. My children are always keen to do more!
They crammed in as much as they could on their chosen days and it was fun to see them fulfilling their time in such a fun and enjoyable way.

4. My children learnt that time is precious.
The mornings were the most difficult because I normally take charge and get everyone ready and out with the dog, but I really had to force myself to step back and they learnt (the hard way) that times flies. This was a great part of the experience and I know we've all learnt from it.

5. My children showed me how to play and relax again…
We played dolls, jigsaws, video games and generally had fun. I stopped worrying about that thing called life and got stuck in and I feel more relaxed for it! It was great to see their imaginations brimming and to be a part of that.

6. My children showed kindness.
George surprised me a lot. He's quite headstrong but he was actually very kind. For example, when Molly didn't want to do an activity, he didn't force her. She went off at one point to play with play dough and later he joined her! It was beautiful but quite a surprise.

7. My children were passionate and had real grown-up debates about their day.
They loved choosing everything we did, from food to alone time, it was wonderful. They debated how and when on each other's days and I didn't need to get involved, they were mature and so incredibly kind!

8. My children are children.
There was the odd meltdown, and to be fair I know adults who have meltdowns, and I just think these happen when things are a bit too much or life shifts a little too much. A lot of it came from not wanting to do something or being bored by the chosen activity. What transpired was the child in charge suggesting the other child go and do what they'd prefer to do instead. And you know what, it worked!

9. My children are growing up.
They are growing so fast, and I realised today how much I need to remember that. Hugging George and Molly whilst watching a movie, talking to George about zombies and seeing his face light up with intrigue, getting down on the ground and playing dolls with both of them, it's not going to last forever…

10. We should do this more often.
So, what am I saying?! Well it's simple, let your kids be bold and brave and let them make more decisions. Obviously this is an extreme example because George and Molly were choosing everything for everyone. Our normal life is mostly George and Molly, Warren and myself making our own decisions on food (yes, sometimes there are several different meals being eaten around the table!) and we generally debate the rest of life! My point is, let go of the reigns now and again, give them the power and trust them, because they might just surprise you!

Would you let your children be totally in charge for the day?!


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